I love this topic, so I think I will add a Mans point of view.
Growing up, Boys transition to Men and Girls transition to Women, during this time both genders are searching after something, a purpose and a someone. During this time, we encounter new things, new experiences, and new people. We experience things such as: happiness, excitement, laughter, love, and heart breaks.
This creates walls and boundaries we bring into our lives that we take into the future. Men are the same as women in this aspect. We all desire to be loved, supported, respected, and cared for.
The fear of love comes from experiences we have encountered in the past that has shaped our view on what we need and want in the new experiences.
As a man, I, as well, pray for my wife often. I pray that she is searching for me and waiting for me like I am her. She is what drives me to fight and she is the peace that I search for.
The act of loving her is easy but the wait is difficult.
We live in a society that don’t respect the other gender, it’s self care only. This creates fear and hesitation in so many areas of our lives. Love is built on a foundation of faith, trust, communication, support and respect.
When any of these have been broken, the love has been broken. Which leads to fear.
So my outlook is simply this. Everyone will fall short, nobody has the ability to always make you happy, and no one will ever be perfect. We all make mistakes and have a short coming.
However, what decisions are you making now to honor him or her for when you finally meet them?
Are the relationships, friendships, and life choices build up to respecting your persuing towards them or tearing you apart from them?
A man needs to find peace, reassurance, refuge, support, and uniqueness in a woman to commit to her. I feel like this is very common need for a woman as well. Men want a challenge, they need the challenge. So as a woman, how can you expect a man to want you if there is nothing different about you from the next girl?
As a woman, are you respecting yourself for him?
As a Man, are you respecting yourself for her?
As we long to meet our person, our forever, our soulmate, we first have to realize what are we doing to cherish them now.
Love is a emotion/feeling everyone longs for. However, with love comes responsibly that we have to be ready for. We have to understand what love truly is in order to be able to reciprocate that to our partners. This is where the problem lies.
We are so eager for the love but don’t show up in the areas that define love. This causes the fear.
So to the guy or girl fearful of love, know that true love is found when you understand the responsibility that come with it. Don’t get into a relationship because you are lonely, broken, or hurting. This only leads to more problems and fears later on. Be happy with yourself first because the relationship won’t fill in that void forever. My mama as always told me, I don’t always have to like him but I will always love him.
Some days we are living on commitment. Search for that commitment. When you find that, love will always follow.
-Rance Muirhead
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